73 Videos In, My First Hater Appears

hey there it’s David H Lawrence the 17th
and as you know I’m in the midst of this
year-long challenge a new video every
day and 73 videos in it had to happen
sooner or later my first hater has made
themselves known I you know look
somebody decided that I’m just a whole
bunch of nothing with these videos at
least the video that they watch because
they they left the comment I’m not
taking these comments down you can read
the comment it’s in the video below the
video about getting started versus
getting ready spending too much time
kind of getting everything all in order
I thought it was pretty clear as to what
the point of that was but you know it
just didn’t it didn’t hit this person
and haters a harsh word I don’t think
yeah well I don’t know maybe but I don’t
think he actually hates me but it
brought to mind that sooner or later
when you choose to express your opinion
publicly you’re gonna take somebody off
you’re gonna tick somebody who maybe
likes you otherwise but you say
something that they totally disagree
with you don’t know what you’re talking
about I mean you know the whole getting
started versus getting ready that’s a
whole bunch of nothing you know I
thought it had a valid point but that
was me that was what I thought right I
touched a nerve of one of my clients
when I did the video about the Rochester
weather man who I thought shouldn’t have
been fired because I thought he just hit
simply had a slip of the tongue he
didn’t really uh tur a racial slur that
would require for thought and intent and
all that anyway I had somebody who was
just really really mad at me about that
and that I didn’t understand and you
don’t know what I’m tied on oh what I’m
talking about
voice is calm the the video that I made
about voice is calm and how I responded
to their query about whether or not I
wanted to be a part of their coaching
program a very prominent coach one of my
peers and again you can read the comment
because it’s still on the video wrote me
a pretty nasty note about who am I to
judge you know judging is for God well
we we judge every day
not we’re not God but we judge
everything every day we judge whether or
not the lights gonna turn red before we
get to it and we judge whether or not
the food we’re eating is good we judge a
lot of things and clearly I have an
opinion on this and I want to make sure
that I do my job and my job in many ways
is to defend the success of the careers
of my clients and my viewers and my
students and when I see something
happening that I think is an injustice
yeah I got a call people on it
you know everybody judges it’s not it’s
not something that you can avoid you can
sugarcoat it and say oh I’m just making
a comparison I’m not really judging
right so and it and you know all through
my life this has happened sooner or
later I you know if I if I’m in a
relationship with an entity long enough
something is going to happen where I
speak my mind and they get upset with me
I remember I had a great relationship
with my audience when I was doing
mornings at Q 107 in Washington DC this
was in the mid 80s and there was an
issue where a local hospital was being
picketed for performing abortions on
demand now you would think yourself oh
don’t talk about abortions you know I
wasn’t I they they were preventing
people not from going to the part of the
hospital where abortions were being
performed but from actually going to
where the blood bank was to give blood
they’re like why would you give blood to
a hospital that performs abortions on
demand and I just casually mentioned
that on the air now I was working in a
radio station that was playing the most
music in the morning and it taught me a
very valuable lesson I said why would
that be the key and the phone started
ringing like crazy on both sides of the
issue you know and my program director
said if you ever do that again if you
ever bring up a divisive issue on this
radio station I’m gonna fire you on the
spot
because what I didn’t realize at the
time was my job was not to be honest my
job was to make the most people the most
happy out of the audience as possible
and in doing so doing that by not
upsetting anybody so staying away from
gun control and abortion and and
religion and you know all this stuff so
you know I figured it would happen
faster than this cuz when I started
doing this I’m like how long is it gonna
take before somebody gets really P OD at
me and it took 73 videos for someone to
really leave a comment that had some
some real like dismissive bite to it I
mean I welcome that I mean I don’t want
to know what people have to say I’d like
there to be a nice congenial
disagreement if there’s gonna be a
disagreement I’d like it to be
respectful but if somebody’s just gonna
do a drive-by and and leave a comment
like that well that was a whole bunch of
nothing
okay well that says a lot about them as
well as about what they got from what I
did I’d love to know what they didn’t
understand or what they why they felt it
was a waste of time I want to generate a
conversation anyway I had conversation
about this with a number of people that
I’m close to and a couple of them were
like well I would never have said that
I mean you know you realize it’s your
fault because you said something and I’m
wondering if that stops you in the
comments below let me know if you find
yourself censoring yourself chilling
yourself because you don’t want to tick
somebody off you don’t want to rock the
boat you don’t want to be the one that
says the wrong thing and ruins the
relationship you know I was able to
patch the relationship up with my
audience and with my program director
and I’m hoping that the guy that thought
I shouldn’t be judgmental the other
coach still respects me maybe he doesn’t
he likes voices.com and works in their
coaching program and you know I hope
that my client who got upset when I was
talking about the weather man in
Rochester you know I hope he understands
my position isn’t one of promoting
racism it’s one of promoting
understanding of a physical you know
alternative situation you can see all
these videos by going back and looking
at them but I wonder if that’s happened
to you and maybe it’s helped shape your
approach
two touchy subjects sensitive issues
divisive things let me know I’ll leave a
comment below wherever you’re seeing
this video I’d love it if you were
watching the videos on VOD go go comm
because that’s where I’m trying to get
the most mass of all this together
certainly comments are being left on
YouTube but I don’t see those as quickly
as I see the ones on V o to go TOCOM so
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17th I thank you so much for watching
these no matter how you feel about what
I’m doing and I will talk to you
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